Friday, May 25, 2012

Over 40 and Focused: Self-Worth

Over 40 and Focused: Self-Worth: Good Morning!!! Do you know your Self-Worth?  There are a lot of people who do not know there self-worth.  What exactly is self-worth? Acc...

Self-Worth

Good Morning!!!

Do you know your Self-Worth?  There are a lot of people who do not know there self-worth.  What exactly is self-worth? According to The American Heritage College Dictionary  4th Ed., it states:
                             
                            Self-Worth (n) - Self-Esteem, self-respect

According to the New Oxford American Dictionary 2nd Ed., it states:

                           Self-Worth (n) - Another term for SELF-ESTEEM

Now with two different definitions that have the same word (Self-Esteem), that should be saying something to you.  Let's see what Self-Esteem is.  According to The American Heritage College Dictionary 4th Ed., it states:

                           Self-Esteem (n) - Pride in oneself; self-respect

According to the New Oxford American Dictionary 2nd Ed., it states:

                          Self-Esteem (n) - confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect

These words are interchangable.  We as individuals have to have pride and confidence in ourselves.  So many of our youth do not know their value.  That is why we have so many teen suicides, bullying,  and teen pregnancy, etc.  Once our youth are taught their self-worth, there is nothing that they won't be able to do.  We as parents have to encourage our youth to have confidence in their abilities.  We have to continue to build up our youth.  I am not only speaking to our youth, I am speaking to anyone who does not understand the meaning of self-worth and that is me included.  Sometimes we forget who we are when we are faced with adversity.  We are valuable.  God made each of us in his image.  There is nothing that we can't do as long as God is by our sides.  So tell your sons and daughters that they beautiful/handsome, tell them they are good, tell them they are loved, and most important, tell them they have SELF-WORTH!!! 

Friday, May 11, 2012

Forgiving Friday

Forgiveness is an action word that for some people, it's hard to do.  Some people have been hurt by others or one person so badly, that it is hard to forgive.  We have to realize that forgiveness does not mean that you condone the behavior, it means that once you forgive, you start your healing process.  Forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for you.  Some people have hardened there hearts so till forgiveness is out of the question for them.  But what if God treated us that way and not forgive us?  God forgives us over and over again and once He forgives, He remembers it NO MORE!! Unforgiveness looks ugly on people because they are so hardened.  God is a loving God and He loves unconditionally!  I learned this when I was going through my forgiveness journey.  It was really hard for me because hating was so easy to do.  But I realized that I am blocking all of what God has for me by not forgiving and I want everything that He has for me.  So I praying and asking God to help me with forgiving this person and I started to read this book called The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. The book consisted of reading a chapter a day and journaling what you have learned from that chapter and how are you going to apply it to your life on that day.  It was not a book to just read and apply later on, no, you had exercises to perform right then and there.  I knew that God was speaking through to me through this book because I got half-way thru the book and got stuck on one particular chapter called "Mending broken relationships".  I kept asking God what did He want me to do because He would not allow me to read the book any further.  I kept having dreams about this particular person and did not know why.  One day I was home alone and was trying to continue to read the book and I heard God whisper to me, "Write a letter".  I wanted to write it but did not know what to say in it because the hurt was so deep I knew that I would get angry all over again so I ignored His whisper and for 4 days I battled with it.  I went to talk to my mother about the situation I was going thru and she told me that I had to ask God.  So I just opened up and humbled myself and told Him if it is a letter that I needed to write then please help me to find the words to say.  The Holy Spirit fell upon me as I started to write this letter and by the time I was finished, it was four pages long front and back.  I mailed it and this person did read it because God guided me to call this person and they were shocked to hear my voice.  We talked about the letter and after about 30 minutes on the phone, we hung up and I thanked God for what He did for me because it felt like a weight was lifted off of my heart.  Of course there was some tears but tears are for the cleansing process.  I slept so good that night and when I woke up the next day I wanted to continue to read the book and I was able to finish the rest of the book with no problems.  See how God works?  When He wants you to do something, He expects you to do it! Although I hesitated and waited and was trying to avoid the inevitable, I then was obedient to his Word and my healing process began.  Forgiveness is a process and it will take some time to do but if you want all what God has for you, ask Him and He will direct your path.  I pray that this helps someone who is struggling with forgiveness.  God Bless!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Can finally rest!!

My spring semester is officially over.  I haven't gotten my grades yet, but I can finally rest my mind and rejuvenate until the summer semester starts.  This was a tough semester but grateful to get through it with the help of God!  You can't succeed without hard work and perseverance so I can get through anything with His help.  I look forward to completing my degree program and moving onto the next level in my life and education.  I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me!!

Saddened!!!

So sad to hear about the suicide of football player Junior Seau. Depression is a real disease that should be address and taken seriously. Earlier this year, Don Cornelious took his own life because of depression. People are suffering in silence and no one knows it. If you are suffering from depression, please seek help from your towns local Health Department. Too many are suffering from this disease and it needs to brought to the for front. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem!!

Twitter Party Alert!!!

I love a good Twitter Party. Join me at 9 PM for the #GreenVision Twitter Party with @_greenMandy and with co-host @MultiTestingMom where they will talking about all things green. Prizes to be given away. Only for Canadian and US Residents only!! See you there!! #GreenVision

Inspirational Wonders

When you start to feel depressed that life is not going the way that you have planned, always remember that someone's life may be worst than yours. Be grateful for everything that you are going thru and that you have. I may not be rich but I have all that I need to make it. God takes care of all of us in different ways. You can always reset your goal list and start over. There is nothing wrong with starting over because it just shows how really strong and determined you really are. You are stronger than you think! Believe in yourself! I do! YOU CAN DO IT!

Wondrous Wednesday

It's Hump Day! What a beautiful day it is here in Winston-Salem, NC. I love spring! The beautiful flowers have bloomed and the leaves are just about covered on the limbs of the trees. All of nature has been renewed. This is the perfect to get out bodies renewed as well. We have to cleanse our bodies of the toxins and impurities so that our skin glows, our system is running regular, and we just plain feel good! There are lots of detox's out there so make sure you do your research and that it is safe! Exercise is a great way to relieve stress while getting your body in shape. Always remember to consult with your medical professional before doing anything!! I want you health but most importantly, I want you to be smart in all of your decisions. Let's go out and enjoy this wonderful day!